If we minimize our need for “relational forgiveness” from God, we fail to maximize our most beautiful of relationships. If we have been born again, God has given us “judicial forgiveness” and our soul and spirit can never be severed from the eternal destiny Christ secured for us on the cross. (Eph. 1:6-8) “Relational forgiveness” is necessary because our flesh is not born again and it is never any better than the day we were saved. Therefore, it wars against our spirit. Paul the Apostle spoke of this war in Romans 7:18 when he said “for I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is my flesh.” If we understand the battle with the flesh, then we can win the war and walk freely in The Spirit. We won’t know the battle plan if we can’t communicate with The Command because we’ve allowed our sin to shut down the relationship. If we’ve lived a Christian life so deeply involved in sin that we can no longer hear God (that was me), then we may need to ask God where to start because sometimes we’ve justified our sin to ourselves for so long that we believe it’s no longer wrong. God never changes and He’s always right. “This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. (1 Jn. 1:5) He WILL enlighten us! As He reveals the breaches in the relationship which are caused by our sin, we have the opportunity to ask Him for forgiveness—but it must be with a heart determined to change. For example, if lying is our problem, then we ask God to forgive us and determine in our heart not to lie anymore! Believe it or not, God WANTS to lavish us in the light and love of a relationship with Him—that’s why He FAITHFULLY FORGIVES us: “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 Jn. 1:9) In all my years living as a Christian who chose to live under the slavery of my flesh, I was ridiculously ignorant of the amazing relationship I was missing! Now I don’t want to miss another minute. There is nothing I EVER gained by living in sin which compares to walking in the light of God’s love.