From Volume 2 of Essential Faith: Sometimes it’s hard to accept that we can influence hearts but we can’t change them. We may earnestly try to change someone from the path of disaster by intellectualizing the reasons for choosing God’s way—however, that sort of any will be only temporary unless God changes the heart. The heart must first become new and belong to Christ before it can change to be like Him. “…if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation” (‭2 Cor.‬ ‭5‬:‭17‬). Christ said that The Father “does his works” because the Father lives in Him. He said: “Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? The words that I say to you I do not speak on my own authority, but the Father who dwells in me does his works” (‭John‬ ‭14‬:‭10‬). In order for God to do His work and change our heart, we must WANT Him to be in our heart and surrender it to Him. Surrendering our heart is not the type of surrender that is done fearfully at gun point; it is the type done because we are drawn into His perfect love. He does not force us to love Him or intellectualize us into believing we should love Him—because this is not love. When we give Him our heart he exchanges our heart of stone for a new heart—a heart that is alive like our body is alive—and capable of being filled with His Spirit. “And I will give them one heart, and a new spirit I will put within them. I will remove the heart of stone from their flesh and give them a heart of flesh… (‭Ezekiel‬ ‭11‬:‭19‬). If we want to help others make permanent change in their lives, then we must be able to SHOW them how God changed our own hearts. Some of the best instructions about how to find God (besides His Word), come from a person who has walked the same path and can share how God has led them and changed their heart. If God has not changed my heart, how then can I show anyone else how to let Him change theirs? We cannot force anyone to change their heart, we can only show them how God changed us and thus, influence them to do what we have done. There is an unmistakable difference between a heart of stone and a living heart because you can’t fake life or death. When you have a heart of stone, no number of words can convince someone that God is love; but when your heart is alive in Christ, the evidence speaks for itself!