Many times I find myself falling back into the habit of contorting my life to please others so I may obtain their love and acceptance. I can tell when my motives are misguided because I begin measuring my daily success by the approval of others. Do I regret doing something extraordinary for someone–because they don’t appreciate it? Am I hurt because someone doesn’t return my affections? The real question I should ask myself is: What is my motivation for my good deeds? If my motivation is to be loved and accepted then it is a sure sign that I have not found my worth in God. When we find our worth in God and experience the fullness of His love, then our motives become purely unselfish because–God has completely satisfied us. God’s love doesn’t demand reciprocation because He doesn’t need it! When we have Him–neither do we! Our joy should not find it’s origin in another sinner who, like us, isn’t capable of being our consistent source of joy. The love and acceptance we seek from others is substandard to the love God offers us. Here’s how the Bible describes God’s love: “It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. (1 Cor. 13:5) When we can love without paying attention to the wrong which we have suffered, then we have God’s love in us and we will NEVER lose our joy. We can love without assessing the risk of being hurt. God has created each of us for a unique and beautiful purpose and we should not lower our standards to live for something less. We can never please one who is not satisfied with who God made them and with what He’s given them. When we are born again, we are unconditionally accepted by God and when our goal is to please Him, we NEVER have to worry about being rejected or disappointed. He created us and He loves who we are!