The more I realize that love is “not about me,” the less I get my feelings hurt by those I love. Typically, the people we love the most are those who hurt us the deepest. Our hurt can be caused by an unkind word, forgetting something important like an anniversary, a lack of trust, a lack of appreciation, a betrayal of trust, a failure to communicate, etc., and those actions always seem to hurt worst when they come from someone we love. But what is the measure of our love if it is so easily offended? God’s Word says: “Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].” (1 Cor. 13:5b, Amplified Version) If our love is about fulfilling some need in ourselves, then it falls short of the love that God wants for us to experience. If we do something extraordinary for someone and they don’t appreciate it and we fall into a funk—then our motive wasn’t love–it was self-fulfillment. The more we make love about God and others and not about ourselves, the less hurt we experience when we love. When we learn how much we are loved by God, then His love overflows in us and we have love to GIVE rather than needing to RECEIVE it from others. God’s love is enough. God’s perfect love frees us to enjoy our acts of love and kindness without our enjoyment being dependent upon the appreciation of those we are loving. God loves us more than any person could ever love us. God’s love teaches us what love is all about!