Love should never be conditioned upon what we expect to receive. If our love is conditional, it’s not love–it’s selfishness. When we examine God’s definition of love, we realize that much of what we call “love,” isn’t love at all. The Bible says: “Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].” (1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:5‬b) Expecting or demanding from someone we’re “loving,” is not God’s love. Even feeling unappreciated or disappointed because our affections are not returned means we weren’t loving in the first place. God’s Love is devoid of self.

How do we free ourselves from selfish motives? Well, in my experience, it didn’t begin to happen until I found my worth in God. As He taught me that I don’t need anything from anyone because I have everything I need from Him, I became free to love without conditions. I’ve had a taste of God’s love and I want more. He doesn’t demand reciprocation from us. He doesn’t need our love because He has experienced perfect love from within His triune self for eternity past. The reason He commands us to love Him is because we need His love! He invites us to join the love of the Trinity. It is the love we were designed to experience. When we find perfect love through knowing Him, then we don’t demand reciprocation from others sinners (like ourselves). Rather, we learn to give love–without expectation! We also learn to love without regard to the wrong we have suffered. That’s how God loves. He teaches us to love without assessing the risk of being hurt.

God created us for a beautiful purpose. He loves us more than anyone else is capable of loving us. When we’re born again, we are unconditionally His child. When we seek Him and live in His righteousness, we discover His love and–that’s the love we give!

From the book, “Essential Faith” Volume 2 available on Amazon by clicking HERE .

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