Several years ago, a woman who had experienced an extremely painful break-up with her boyfriend said to me, “I’m just looking for someone who will love me for me.” It struck me that her words resounded with one of the deepest longings we all experience; and, our modern culture constantly reinforces our desperation. The music, advertising, entertainment, and nearly all social circles teach us that we need to be “looking for love.” This is completely backwards! It’s no wonder our society is teeming with broken hearts!
Our culture has misled us about love.
God’s Word teaches us two important principles about love: 1. We are already loved by God for who we are; and 2. When we KNOW God’s love, we know love is what we give, NOT what we expect or receive. When we know GOD’S love, then—instead of looking FOR love, we look TO love! God tells us to seek TO love because we are already loved! The Bible says: “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. We love because he first loved us.” (1 John 4:7-8, 19)
If we are looking to be loved, rather than looking to give love, then we have failed to recognize the most fundamental truth about love.
God never says anywhere in the Bible for us to “seek love,” because God IS love, and if we are His children, we already have love. Instead, the Bible tells us to “seek God” and “give love.” So, if we are seeking love from friends, a spouse, children, or parents, what does that say about our relationship with God? When we seek God with all our heart, soul and mind—we find perfect love. The closest thing we’ll ever find to perfect love in another human, is to be loved by someone who is completely in love with God. God loves us for who we are and, in His love, we can love others the way they are!
Publisher’s note: A great song to accompany this devotional is “Love Begins” by Kimberly Faith