Taylor Swift said, “We should love, not fall in love, because everything that falls, gets broken.” I think she’s absolutely right, unless—the ONE we’ve fallen in love with FIRST—is God. If we fall in love with anyone else first, we WILL be broken; and we’re likely to break the object of our affections with our unrealistic expectations.
However, the great phenomenon about falling in love with God, is that when we do, we are then equipped to handle falling in love with another person.
Well, when we are completely captivated by God’s love, our NEED for love is satisfied to the degree that we desire to GIVE love without an expectation of receiving it. Perhaps that doesn’t seem possible, however, that’s because modern society has given us a defective and insufficient understanding of true love. We have excluded the all important, author of love—God.
The Bible says, “we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.” (1 John 4:16) To love, is to abide in God. God is holy and therefore, HIS love is holy.
For a culture which has collectively rejected God—we are forced to substitute a cheap replication of love. Our heart becomes emaciated. Thus, we “love” based upon our loneliness, need for comfort, to fulfill our physical desires, etc. We even justify compromising our integrity or hurting others in the name of love. This is not love—it’s nothing more than a sad, self-deceiving lie.
We are never loving another person if that “love” involves violating God’s laws because love is the fulfilling of His law. (Romans 13:8-13) Think about it—each of the Ten Commandments boils down to love. When we love, we don’t steal, murder, commit adultery, etc., right? Jesus said that if we love Him we will keep His commandments. (John 14:15)
In fact, if you claim to love someone while walking in darkness, you are actually destroying them because you’re taking them further from God—who is love. God is light, and His love is not in us when we’re “making love” in the darkness! (1 John 1:5) This delusion of finding love in the darkness produces the hellish relationships I see in my office. Is that the kind of love you want? I suspect this is the kind of love Taylor Swift was talking about. God has an indescribably more beautiful love—planned for you.
When you fall in love with God, He will teach you how to truly fall in love.
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