Loneliness can easily overwhelm us as we are forced to practice social distancing during the COVID-19 pandemic. Our fleshly instincts are to resolve this need for fellowship with other humans with distraction or entertainment rather than using it as an opportunity to build the relationship we need most. We were created with a need for perfect love and companionship—which is found in God alone.
Yet, we run from Him, and our desperation drives us into the arms of mindless, irrational and embarrassing substitutes.
I’ve represented many clients, who were so desperate for love, that even while going through their divorce—they were already engaged to someone else. I understand this loneliness. During my divorce I was desperate to quell my loneliness. But I didn’t want more of the same—so I chose to be alone. The many years of alone time post-divorce, provided me with the opportunity to be drawn into the greatest relationship of my lifetime—with God!
While God created us to have companionship, friendship, intimacy, He created us first and foremost for a relationship with HIM. When we don’t develop this most VITAL relationship, then we place an unfair expectation on another person to fulfill the needs which God designed to be fulfilled ONLY BY HIM. Absent a relationship in God, we WILL be disappointed in ALL other relationships! Once we change our habits to seek His companionship FIRST, He meets ALL our secondary needs—even companionship.
We have His Word on it: “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.” (Psalms 37:4-5)
If you’re feeling lonely and isolated, that’s not a bad thing—it could be exactly what you need to find the BEST companion of your entire life—God. He is the friend that will never leave you and will always love you. He gave His life so you could “have life and have it more abundantly.” (John 10:10)
The first step is to receive His gift of salvation. If you are already His child, seek to know Him. He is waiting to be the greatest lover of your soul for life’s journey. His Word promises: “Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the LORD your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.”(Deuteronomy 31:6)