Love should never be conditioned upon what we expect to receive. If our love is conditioned on our expectations, is it love or just selfishness? When we examine God’s definition of love, we begin to recognize that much of what we’ve believed about love—isn’t love at all. Our primary objective in seeking someone to love us seems to be all about what they can do for us; that is, how they can meet our needs, make us happy, and satisfy our desires. Right?

So when we read through the Bible’s definition of love it enlightens us to what the experience of love is supposed to look like:

“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.” (‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭13:4-8a‬)

Is this the love you have EXPERIENCED on either the GIVING or RECEIVING end?

Expecting or demanding something from someone we say we “love” is NOT love. Even feeling unappreciated or disappointed in relationships is an indication that our love has fallen short of the mark. We need to take a step back and figure out where we are missing the mark. Love should begin with God.

God’s Love is devoid of self.

But how in the world do we free ourselves from selfish motives enough to love like this???

Well, it’s a life-long struggle because, as the Apostle Paul said, “When I would do good, evil is present with me.” (Romans 7:21) This kind of love didn’t begin to happen in my own life until I found my worth in God. When I allow His presence surrounds me so fully, I find I don’t NEED anything from anyone because I HAVE everything I need from Him, and then—I am free to love without conditions.

When wee get a taste of God’s love—we want more.

God doesn’t demand reciprocation from me. He doesn’t NEED my love because He has experienced perfect love from within His triune self—for eternity past. The reason He commands us to love Him is because—WE need HIS love!

The command to love God, is an invitation to join the love of the Trinity.

This is the love we were designed to experience.

When we find perfect love through knowing Him, then we don’t demand reciprocation from other sinners (like ourselves). Rather, we learn to give love–without expectation! We also learn to love without regard to the wrong we have suffered. That’s how God loves. He teaches us to love without assessing the risk of being hurt.

God created us for a beautiful purpose. He loves us more than anyone else is capable of loving us. When we’re born again, we are unconditionally His child.

When we seek God and desire His holy ways—we experience love that exceeds our expectations. 

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