We often think that when we are a victim of someone else’s wrongdoing that it’s ok to prolong our victimhood by—wallowing in the pain, feeling sorry for ourselves, or using their bad behavior as an excuse to seek retribution. We stew on the details of how or why the other person hurt us. We form sinful thoughts like revenge or even—plan to withhold our love from them.

I’ve done this so many times—especially with people I love! What a waste of time! In Christ, we have the ability to let go of our hurts and let His love continue to flow through us—even to those who hurt us. Nursing our hurt feelings leads us into an infecting trap of bitterness. It takes us away from God.

Pain can be so deceptive because it can masquerade as our comforting friend.

As we welcome this enemy of God into the deepest recesses of our soul, it squeezes the life out of us. We suddenly wake up one day and realize that hurt is a blinding storm that has clouded our entire perspective. Pain can turn into bitterness that— divorces us from reality.

True reality is found in the peace of God’s presence.

If we want to clear the storms away, we must begin by asking God to forgive us for holding onto the hurt. Furthermore, if we’ve retaliated against the offender, we must also seek their forgiveness as well–irrespective of whether they’ve ever apologized to us! Then…we must begin to change the way we handle hurt by learning to immediately give it to God so it doesn’t plant seeds of bitterness which keep us from God.

God is our truest Friend.

Thus, to maintain our closeness to Him, we must learn to quickly forgive others. Jesus said,

“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” (‭Matthew‬ ‭6:14-15‬)

Forgiving others keeps our lines of communication open with God—who IS love; while living like a victim (in bitterness) takes us away from Him.

God wants us to be close to Him!

God offers to bear our burdens, including the burden of a broken heart. His Word says,

“Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.” (‭Psalms‬ ‭55:22‬)

The truth is, we can learn to give every part of ourselves to God–including our pain. When we learn this, we are free and God gives us the purest joy our soul is capable of experiencing.

If someone has hurt you and you don’t feel you can let it go—tell God about it—give it over to Him. God desires to free you to live in love!

Give ALL your burdens to God because He cares for you. (1 Peter 5:7)

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