If I could go back to when my children were still home—from the time they were born, I would have made the most important goal for their life—developing their relationship with God. Instead, their life was crammed with year-round sports, learning multiple instruments, making the honor roll; vacations, family entertainment, and church attendance. The primary goal was for them to be good people and have worldly and financial success! There was very little—to zero—focus on teaching them how to have a strong RELATIONSHIP with God.
Do you want to know WHY???
Well, I couldn’t give away what I didn’t have! Since God was not the love of my life, of course I had no desire to give them what I had NOT experienced. How could I? It wasn’t until I hit rock-bottom; was divorced; and all but the youngest child had left home—that I began to fall in love with God. I began to realize HE was the only one who could completely satisfy the deepest longings of my heart. Then, He became the deep, driving passion of my life.
I can’t go back and do life over—but I’m confident, that now—my children see His presence in my life!
When my youngest child (Jon) was getting ready to leave for college, he told me he had something very important to tell me. So we made a nice dinner and sat down across from each other at the table. He was very serious and he looked me in the eye and told me (I’m paraphrasing a little because I didn’t write it down at the time—but this captures the gist of it):
“Mom, in the last three years, you have taught me what a relationship with God looks like—by your life. (My tears started here.) I can see your relationship with God has changed you and I know you want to do what is right—not for a show, but—because you love Him. When you told me not to do wrong things and—you didn’t do them either. [He gave some very personal, specific examples.] You were transparent about your struggles and your failures. Now I know what it looks like to do life God’s way. Thanks, Mom.”
I cried tears of joy!
I give all glory to God for what my son saw in my life. You see, God’s presence can’t be faked; and, it is our most powerful testimony. When God is constantly on our mind, we speak His wisdom. When we have His love in our heart, we love as He does. When we have His power, we give others His strength. When our children see God is real in their PARENTS—arguably the most important people in their life—then God becomes more real to THEM. We can’t fake God’s presence and—hypocrisy will only drive our children away—especially when it’s from a parent.
We, as parents provide the first picture of God to our children.
What does your picture look like?
I pray it is better than mine was for so many years!
Our testimony of God is only credible to our children, when they see He is incredible to us!
When God is more important to us than anything or anyone, He shines through us so brightly that others can’t help but see Him. He becomes what is most real to us and about us. We cannot fake the fruits of the Spirit to anyone—especially our kids!
“The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” (Galatians 5:22-23a)
These gifts are priceless; thus, they must be closely guarded by God’s Spirit lest they be stolen by the sneaky wiles of our enemies!
“Guard, through the Holy Spirit who dwells in us, the TREASURE which has been entrusted to you.” (2 Timothy 1:14)
Our children are also entrusted to us by God. Don’t they deserve to SEE us KNOW Him; so they can also KNOW Him? The highest goal we can set for our children is to teach them to know God through our own example—then God will bless their life with eternal success!
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